The Comparison Game

I met Emily freshman year of college on move-in day, when God and Union saw fit to randomly have us room together. As always, God's plans are magnificent-between spoonfuls of peanut butter, late night Target runs, and many-many laughs, Emily and I become best friends. Now graduated, married, + living in Peoria, IL. Emily is a Beachboy Coach. She, along with my fitness coach, have been such an encouragement to me as I have struggled with today's topic. I pray that as you read this post, you will be encouraged by her sweet words. Emily has one of the biggest hearts of anyone I know, and I am so glad I get to share her with you today.

The Comparison Game


Comparing yourself with others - their appearance, their status, their wealth, their family, their life - IS A LIE.

Did she just start a blog post with that? Yep, I sure did!

I don’t say those things to discourage you. I have struggled - and still struggle - with comparing myself to other women who seem to have it all together when I’m a hot mess. As a health and fitness coach, the world I work in is filled with beautiful women with “perfect” bodies that have their lives all sorted out, right? WRONG. They are not perfect. And you should not expect yourself to be either. It’s ok to be a hot mess.

Social media shows such a strange array of perfected photos and thoughtful captions, but rarely does someone on social media allow themselves to share a vulnerable piece of who they are. I know that may be a scary thing to say in such a vulnerable state, but sharing your hurt and your life with other people allows them to encourage you instead of compare themselves to you. If you are going through a hard time, or if you’re struggling with the issues of comparing yourself to others - SHARE IT.

When I see that person that I constantly compare myself to post something that lets me see that they have made a mistake, that they didn’t shower that day, or that they are struggling with something personal, that allows me to connect with them. It shows me that they are REAL, and I love real people.


Each person has their struggle. Each person is trying to get through something, no matter how perfect they look on the outside.

Please stop comparing yourself and see the beauty that you are. You are GORGEOUS… STUNNING, actually. You are so important and loved. You have an incredible purpose, and I want you to use it. You have gifts that no one else has… please use them!
The world needs women who love each other well - without comparison - who encourage each other to live to our full potential.
— -Emily